We are conditioned in a way that the term family denotes a couple and kids, and that makes it whole, purposeful. Single persons living with their parents, or someone with their domestic partner, or a queer couple with their dog or not considered a family. The term family actually means feeling at home, feeling the bond, and being safe. And with whoever you feel all of these above-mentioned, they are your family. Don’t you think so?
Does not wanting kids make me a terrible person? Not the feminine type? Not owning the worthy motherliness of a woman?
No, I don’t think so!
Everything in your life is all about your choices and not about the way you are conditioned. We, as humans, think that we’re evolved and so we’re superior to other species on the planet. Technically, we might be on top of the food chain, but does that give us superiority? Well, probably the evolution part is acceptable, but the superiority? We generate rules, we moralize opinions, we frame judgements, and as a co-existing community, we tend only to exist and not to live. How is it called an evolution, Mr.Darwin?
Just because all the living creatures on the planet, starting from the microorganisms to the extinct dinosaurs, reproduce, should a human also consider doing the same, even after the so-called evolution? D’uh!
I mean, I do not want humans to go extinct (at least to some extent). Even though humans are the major reasons for the destruction of this planet(okay, let’s talk about this part some other time), I don’t think every human should die. There are innocent, sweet souls as well. At least, I make myself believe so. The majority is.
But I’m just thinking, why is a process of reproduction, a process of bringing up an offspring, sprouting humankind just like that of a bacterium, such a big deal right from the Stone Age to the social media age?
You eat, you sleep, you menstruate, you masturbate, and just as natural as these are, you have sex for your bodily and soulful needs. But should all of these processes require any results rather than just enjoying the process itself? Okay, for some, it may. I appreciate it; I respect it. I like mushrooms; I eat them; you don’t like mushrooms, you don’t eat them. We make our own choices, and even if we disagree with each other’s choices, we still have to co-exist. Having a baby or not having a baby is still a choice of an individual, with due respect to that of a partner. How will it be anyone else’s business?
I was once told that I may not find a partner for my life unless I choose to have a baby; and that I ought to live as we all are conditioned for a long time, as a part of this society. Especially being a woman. I laughed my heart out hearing that comment, and said Yeah, right! and moved on.
A man or a woman, or any gender, doesn’t define whether they should have a child. And yeah, my choice of being childfree might sound like an extra burden in finding an appropriate partner. But trust me, there are millions and millions of people out there who choose being childfree, because they damn know that it’s a pretty normal lifestyle choice, and nothing to do with the human race itself.
But being childfree doesn’t make us any less of a human, because we get to choose what we want for ourselves. Some are just prey to society, running amidst the rat race, not being able to even pause and think if they really want kids. They just reproduce because they’re taught that’s normal, and that’s how it’s supposed to be. And some of us are privileged to make conscious life choices that we don’t regret-one of them is PROUDLY BEING CHILDFREE.
Because having a baby is just not an individual’s business; you’re producing a real human to be a part of this society. It’s more of a responsible business, where it involves the whole planet or even far beyond.
One more time, loud and bold and proud- PROUDLY BEING CHILDFREE!!!
